Thursday, February 16, 2012

"I Almost Divorced My Husband But I Went ON STRIKE INSTEAD"

A few weeks ago I was honored to meet author Sherri Mills at a signing we were doing together. I was impressed by her wisdom, her kindness, and her wit. And, after a couple of hours laughing with her, I was intrigued about the contents of her book. The title alone had me chuckling and as I opened the pages, I was thrilled to hear Sherri's voice narrating.

From the very first page I was hooked. And, even though my marriage is abundantly happy "I Almost Divorced My Husband But I Went On Strike Instead" had tidbits of information that even I could use. On page 76 I found an amazing nugget of wisdom that hit home for me as Sherri discusses: BEING RIGHT VS. BEING HAPPY. Because this concept resonated so deeply with me, I asked Sherri to expand upon it for us. Here's what she had to say:

"My ultimate goal in writing my book ‘I Almost Divorced my Husband but I Went on Strike Instead’ was to do whatever it took to stop the skyrocketing divorce rate.

"In my vast research, I discovered that one of the most difficult things to tackle in a marriage is when couples always have to be right.

"You have to make sure that being right doesn’t get in the way of getting results. Reflect on how tiring it is for you to always have to be right and how that halts progress. If you both have to be right, then the bickering and fighting will be never ending. Yes, you can both feel powerful and beat your chests in victory over the other one, but is that what marriage is about? Have you solved anything by dealing with your problems that way?

"If you always have to be right, the memories of ugly arguments and disappointments are so vivid that those memories can crowd out all of the happy, loving and delightful memories.
If you have to be right all the time, you will find yourself digging up and reviewing, memories of each and every wrong thing your husband does. That way, in the midst of an argument, you can go to your memory bank, point to just the right wrong doing, and win. You do it even if that wrong doing happened weeks, months, or years ago. It never works!

"You will be happier if you can reach that higher level where being right isn’t all that important. Then you can toss out the negative garbage in your brain and clear neural pathways to your treasures—the loving memories---so they are near the surface and the first to be remembered.
Isn’t that what a long lasting loving marriage is all about?"

Well said, Sherri. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and wisdom with us.

Whether your marriage is struggling or not, I recommend you take a peak at "I Almost Divorced My Husband But I Went On Strike Instead." I believe there is a little bit of something for every marriage within the pages, including a taste of Sherri's wit and an abundance of her 40+ years of marriage wisdom.

To learn more about Sherri and the background to her book, visit Sherri's website.
To read a sample, check out the reviews, or order your own copy, visit Amazon.

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